- Being envious of everyone else.
- Taking everything too personally.
- Acting like you’re always a victim.
- Hoarding pain and loss.
- Obsessive negative thinking.
- Lack of emotional self-control.
- Making superficial judgments about others.
- Cruelty (or lacking empathy and compassion).
- Cheating and cutting moral corners simply because you can.
- Hiding your truth.
- Needing constant validation.
- Being a stubborn perfectionist.
How to Identify Toxic Behavior
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Attempting to intimidate you by yelling or becoming violent in any manner (slamming a door is a violent act).
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Consistently talking down at you, sending the message that he or she is just plain better than you.
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Regularly telling you what he or she thinks is wrong with you.
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Slandering others behind their backs i.e. trying to engage you in gossip that is hurtful to others.
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Spending the bulk of your conversations complaining about his or her life and others.
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Discouraging you from pursuing your interests and dreams when you are capable of doing so without hurting or burdening others.
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Attempting to take advantage of your kindness and resources, and
trying to make you feel guilty if you don't do what he or she wants.
Assertiveness for Earth Angels: How to Be Loving Instead of "Too Nice"